I think that a lot of bigotry is inherited. If your parents spend the formative years of your life saying that they think Tasmanians are epic morons, you will probably believe that they are. Even if intellectually, you are able to eventually prove your parents wrong, you will always, deep down inside, think that Tasmanians are dim-witted.
When it comes to sexuality, I was lucky. My parents were cool. Both of our neighbours had sons that were gay and it was a total non-issue. And I'd like to think that if my first date was with a lass named Susan, they would have supported that. Eventually.
So it totally fascinates me when people that I know are educated and intelligent say things like this:
"It's so hard being gay. I don't know why he just doesn't choose to be straight. There are so many nice single girls."
WTF???
Now I am a believer of the theory that we all have Yin and Yang and that most people exist on some sort of sexual continuum, but I don't think that if Jim has been bonking Ken for a year, he can very likely just 'choose' to enjoy bonking Barbie.
That said, and I may be shot down for this, I do think that here, like in most other aspects of life, it's different for men and women. If your wife tells you that she messed around with her mate Angela at varsity after a few tequilas, she scores 10 points. If your husband says that he and his room mate used to get it on...
"Honey - you know Ivan from UCT? We used to shag after Accounts 101. Hellava nice guy. Dressed well too."
Red flag. RED FLAG.
I think that women are better at treading the grey waters when it comes to pretty much anything, sexuality included. Men - they're black and white. Women meander. Men prefer to pick a lane. I have seen male gay friends try their level best to straddle lanes and they always, always end up where the boys are.
Maybe it's just more faaaabulous there. ;)
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